So what is resilience and what does it mean to you?
When things go wrong resilience is what makes you able to cope, how you can get through the hard times, sometimes it even makes you stronger than you were before.
Resilience can also be described as bouncing back after difficult times or dealing with challenges, giving things ago or trying your best, being strong on the inside, being able to cope with what life throws at you and shrug it off. It could even be standing up for yourself, getting back into shape after you’ve been bent or stretched.
How can you develop it?
Ensure you have a positive attitude and that you feel good about myself. Ensure you have support both at work and home, take time out for yourself, but also take time out to give back to your community, your tribe, have good conversations with those around you and being able to overcome and solve challenges in a positive way.
Things to ask yourself?
What do I do to get back on track? I can’t control everything but what is in my control?
Can I do things differently? What did I learn from this experience? Who can help me? How can I move forward? These are all good questions to ask, but why not ask someone whose already developed their resilience and what did they do.
My thoughts on building your resilience.
The first thing you need to do is to acknowledge where you are in your life, how happy with each area of life are you truly. Then reflect on what you want to do, what do you want to be, what do you have in life. Once you know what your "end" looks like then define your success. What does it look, feel like. Defining success means that you can make goals, short term or long term, but make them smart. Be sure to know when you've achieve them and know exactly how you are going to celebrate your achievement.
Know yourself and know yourself well. What are your values? Your strengths? Your wishes - what do you wish you could do better? What is your why? what’s your purpose, your intentions? Know your habits and all those energy draining things that you do. When you know yourself, you can reflect to the world your authentic real true self.
Do you know your circle of influence do you know what’s in it and what’s outside of it? Be able to reframe events that have happened, know your value and the impact at work and at home, be able to make a plan, remember to plan for obstacles that come your way and then celebrate your results.
I think having the ability to bounce back is also to ensure that you look after your physical self, do you have a healthy diet? plenty of exercise? lots of sleep? Also look at your environment both at work and at home does it support the life that you want or is it full of clutter and rubbish? Live in the present moment, have routines that support the life that you want.
Finally I think it’s about finding true balance in your life, having a dream team that surround you, family, friends, mentors. Being motivated to consistently move forward and being grateful and affirming in everything that you do.
One of the most important things in developing your resilience is to develop your self-awareness to know what your needs, your limits your strength and your wishes.
How to deal with your stress, to make and deliver on your goals, learn from your past mistakes and ensure that learning is built into your future life.
Learning to build your resilience really does make you feel stronger and once you feel stronger it can make those problems that you face on a day-to-day basis easier to deal with.
The benefits of building your resilience
I know that it has a strong effect on reducing depression and helps stop developing mental health problems. One in 10 people at work experience anxiety and depression at any given time this often results in lost hours or even absence from work which impacts on the business. Developing a resilient mindset can protect you from developing some of the mild conditions and help us cope much better.
improving your physical well-being means that you can cope with the everyday demands and pressures at work and the significant challenges that often come away particularly when you have children or aging relatives to care for. This wellbeing is crucial when there are changes in in the workplace, restructures are common, maybe involving redundancies, you can become much more resilient using the techniques and tips that help you navigate those changes.
It improves your emotionally stability which is a key factor in well-being and successful performance at work. Being able to emotionally respond well rather than react to stressful situations is crucial to being able to perform at our best and maintain positive working relationships.
Feel free to contact me if you have any questions. If this post has made you think and you would like to make a change, then contact me and we can have a free 30 minute chat about how I can help you.
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